How to Comfort Your Friend

How to Comfort Your Friend
One of the greatest things about having friends is that they can be there for you when you're feeling down. Here's how to be a good friend when you're needed.

Steps
Compliment you friend about her/his other great abilities and skills, especially if they are upset about something they can't do well, or a recent failure or rejection.
Tell your friend that nobody's perfect. The important thing is that we learn from our mistakes. Ask him/her "What can we learn from this?"
Sometimes all your friend needs is just to be able to vent and talk about what's bothering them, so be ready to listen patiently.
Tell your friend that you love her/him the way s/he is. it doesn't matter how they look, what they wear, etc. - and mean it!
Give your friend a hug, pat them gently on the shoulder, or back.



Tips
Try to be an active listener. When your friend pauses, and looks to you for a response, repeat what he or she just said, but in your own words, to show that you are really listening and sympathizing.
Show your friend you think they are your focus by politely dismissing people who also want to say something to you. The person you are helping will appreciate this.



Warnings
Avoid talking about yourself and your own problems, even if they are the same as theirs. You may feel bad too, but saying so will not make them feel any better.
Avoid saying "Life sucks" or "Oh, everyone has that problem." It belittles their problem, not to mention not making them feel any better.